Abusive Relationships
Did you know, every nine seconds a woman is abused my a man?
Every year, four million American women are beaten up, and physically abused. what if you're one of them?
Why doesn't the girl leave the relationship?
Usually because the guy tells her it's her fault she's being hit. Her self-esteem goes down and, as a result, she has an easier time believing all the terrible things he says to her. A lot of girls who are in an abusive relationship will defend the guy. They'll start lying to their friends about why they have a broken wrist, or a broken nose. Physical abuse isn't a joke or something to lie about.
If you are being physically abused, take these steps:
Every year, four million American women are beaten up, and physically abused. what if you're one of them?
Why doesn't the girl leave the relationship?
Usually because the guy tells her it's her fault she's being hit. Her self-esteem goes down and, as a result, she has an easier time believing all the terrible things he says to her. A lot of girls who are in an abusive relationship will defend the guy. They'll start lying to their friends about why they have a broken wrist, or a broken nose. Physical abuse isn't a joke or something to lie about.
If you are being physically abused, take these steps:
- Talk to your school counselor, your parents, or another adult you trust.
- Get out of the relationship any way you can. Don't let his threats force you to stay. It's NEVER your fault.
- Statistics show that abusers rarely change. It will never get better, and the abuse will only get worse.
Kissing a boy
How To Kiss:
- Make sure your breath smells good! Have a mint or chew some gum!
- Look up at him - if he's looking at your lips or is letting you get close to his face without backing away, go for the kiss. If not, he might not be ready yet. So don't pressure him!
- Look at his lips, and smile. Then slowly look back up. He will take the hint you want a kiss!
- Some guys are shy, so that's when you have to make the move.
- If he's welcoming you in, kiss him. You don't have to go for a full on make out, just lightly kiss his lips, is he likes it; it'll warm him up to give you some.
- Carry lip balm, lip gloss can just have a sticky mess.
- Kiss his neck, then his cheek, and work your way to his lips. That makes him crave your kisses!
- The fastest way to have a first kiss is just to get close to the person and kiss them.
- Cock your head sideways. Hitting noses can be embarrassing!
- Close your eyes. Looking at each other while kissing could be awkward!
- Make sure your breath smells good and that there's nothing in your teeth or braces.
Is he the right guy for you?
Is this guy the perfect one for you?
What should you look for in a serious boyfriend:
Signs he's not the one:
What should you look for in a serious boyfriend:
- Honesty
- Intelligence
- Sense of humor
- Compassion
- Kindness
Signs he's not the one:
- He pressures you into sex
- He's mean and moody all the time
- He gives you a guilt trip
- He plays you, or cheats on you.
- He lies to get out of things, or changes his story a lot.
Trusting him
I know it may be hard to trust a guy. Especially when they lie to you once. If you find a guy that is always honest with you, and you can trust him 100%, then he's a keeper. I'll give you an example. My ex boyfriend: I thought he was the best person to ever walk this earth. He always said the right things, which mae me trust him because I fell for what he told me. He'd never let me see his phone which I thought was weird. so I'd watch over his shoulder and look at his password. (I'm sneaky. Ha!) Then while at his house one day, when he was downstairs I looked through his texts. He was texting another girl...telling her he LOVED HER. I was really upset. After I told him I knew, he kept begging for me to take him back. Trust is key in a relationship. If you can't trust him, don't take him back. And always remember that its better to be single and wait for the right person rather than be with someone you can't trust.
How to turn him down - the nice way
- Be honest and say, "I like you as a friend," It can prevent a lot of problems later. You might think it's easier to lie and say you have a boyfriend. But eventually, he might find out and be even more hurt.
- Ignoring him won't make his crush go away and is no way of how to turn down a guy. Be nice if he tries talking to you. But don't return his stares with smiles. These things will only give him the wrong idea.
- If you are friends and he tells you he likes you then tell him you only want to be friends.
- It's always a good feeling to know that a guy likes you, even if you don't like him back, but don't lead him on just to feel better about yourself. This can only lead to hurting him.
- If you feel like he's starting to stalk you (following you around or calling you a lot after saying you're not interested) tell your parents or a school counselor about it. And you should not feel responsible or guilty if he's become obsessed.
How to talk to a guy you like
- Ask him questions. Ask about school or ask about a sport he plays. Music and movies are also good.
- When you're laughing it's contagious, so don't be afraid to laugh. After all, most guys love hearing girls laugh!
- When I'm nervous, all I do is talk, but talking too much shows him you're not interested in hearing about him.
- Be open and honest. Lying about who you are will come back to haunt you. Talk about your friends and what you like to do.
- Flirting is a way to show someone you're interested in them. Make eye contact. Smile.
Dealing with long distance relationships
- See if him seeing you really matter to him. Does he talk about the future and about when you're going to see each other again, or does he just mention it every once in a while??
- Make sure you stay in contact. Email, Skype, text, call. When you're not around him, there's still other ways to talk/see each other.
- Make sure that you two are exclusive. You don't want him thinking he can date other girls while you're not there! That'd be heartbreak for you!
- If you're not happy, end it. It will be hard, but if you are upset that you can't see him all the time and its too much for you, you'll have to break up with him.